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WHY WRITE ABOUT LETTING GO?
It’s important to know different ways of dealing with your weed addiction because you’ll have more options to adjust to different challenges. There’s different ways to skin a cat and it’s important to be versatile in your approach and find what works for you.
When I was learning to quit smoking weed, I was desperate to try anything and this definitely helped and above all, it helped me enjoy life in general. Specially for those who struggle enjoying the sober lifestyle.
WHAT IS LETTING GO?
LETTING GO OF WEED
It’s human nature to move towards pleasure and avoid pain. This is the basis to addiction and suffering. We are naturally attached to what makes us feel good and this attachment to pleasure causes smokers to feel a sense of loss if he or she doesn’t get its fix.
When you are addicted to smoking weed and you feel the craving to smoke, that’s your way of resisting what is. Whenever you want the present moment to be “better”, you create resistance.
For example, lets say you’re in traffic and late to work. You can either get mad and throw fits about the situation or just accept it and know that you can’t control it. Which one is better?
It’s not like getting angry will change traffic, right? But it gives you a sense of control.
Resistance can be felt inside of ourselves either as an emotional knot, or some form of physical tension.
Having an addiction to weed causes an individual’s mind to think of the past and the future for happiness and salvation, neglecting the present moment. The smoker rehearses in their mind the last time they got high, and how good it felt.
They’ll think of how it’ll feel in the future if they take just one more hit. Addiction’s power lies in time (past and future) and its powerless in the now.
Do you ever notice whenever you are intensely focused on an activity such as sports, dancing or sex, somehow the desire to smoke doesn’t come to mind? It’s only when you are done that your mind starts wondering aimlessly and eventually ends up reminding you of smoking.
This future and past projection is what causes the cravings and thus, you begin resisting what already is because you want to escape what’s going on now because it doesn’t feel good. It’s not supposed to be happening.
Labeling emotions and circumstances gives it the life and strength it needs to make you suffer, rather you should just accept it without labeling it so that it doesn’t become something meaningful in your life.
Can you refrain from labeling and interpreting the cravings as a bad thing?
Let’s say you start to feel cravings, and prior to the cravings you were enjoying the moment but, when the cravings starts, you say to yourself “damn not this again”. You just lost that presence and have given life to the craving by labeling it a “bad experience”.
You begin to give it your attention and it grows in strength.
Try this instead; rather than interpreting it as something bad, just be the observer and accept it.
Don’t react to it. When you label it as a “bad” thing, it gains control over your mind and you won’t stop thinking about it. Do you ever notice the human tendency to notice the bad things above all else?
Well if you want to stop thinking about weed, then stop getting antsy when the cravings come. Just observe it as though you’re watching the clouds in the sky passing by.
Have you ever taken a test, and left knowing that you failed and as a result you sort of say, “f*ck it, i tried my best, there’s nothing I can do now” and somehow that liberated you from the worry of thinking if you failed or not?
Most of the time you won’t be going home stressed, instead you‘ll be going home knowing that what happened has already happened. There‘s nothing you can do about it, this is what letting go means. It’s taking the right action and letting the chips fall where they belong.
If we accept our cravings through observing it, wouldn’t it make it stronger and cause me to give in?
Logic says yes, but the truth is that when you become one with your craving, “giving in” is essentially accepting it. When you give in to “your craving”, you are resisting because you’re trying to change it, not through dealing with it, but through suppressing it. This suppression is achieved by using whatever substance you use to “feel better”.
Don’t try to get away from the craving because it’s painful, rather accept it as a part of who you are because suppressing it causes stress, and stress was what triggered the cravings initially due to our association of addictive behavior as a solution to stress.
When we suppress our cravings, we lose the opportunity to develop our mental capacity to handle stress in other areas of life.
Practicing mindfulness will help to dissolve the habit of naming and labeling. We can start small by not labeling little things such as waiting for a friend who is running late or frustration we experience as “frustration” because this trigger stress and makes us start thinking of a better future.
HOW TO LET GO OF SMOKING CIGARETTES THROUGH MINDFULNESS
The way you can address your habit to smoking weed is through becoming aware when there’s resistance to the present moment.
Whenever you ask yourself “I wish this moment was better” is resistance. The problem is that we are so distracted by our life circumstances, and entertainment (TV, Facebook, the internet and etc.) that we shift our focus from the present moment, to the past and the future.
We don’t take time to zero in on our emotions because they cause us more suffering. Like previously mentioned, we move towards pleasure, and run away from pain.
But I would like to present to you a few tool-kits that will enable you to release this resistance and liberate your mind from addiction to weed.
How to stop smoking weed with mindfulness
Learn to meditate.
Observe it as though you are watching a child misbehave.
Smile at it, notice that it isn’t you.
Notice where the feeling is in your body, notice the amount of space the feeling takes up in your body. Notice the color, if any. Notice its shape, and any other traits of the craving.
Don’t focus on “thought”, focus more on emotion.
If thoughts arise, use what I like to call “listening to the radio” technique. Listen to your thoughts as though you are listening to the radio. Just listen. Feel as though there’s a radio inside your head that’s producing the mental dialogue and you’re just there to listen. It’s as simple as that.
Now that you know the different ways of letting go, now what? Are you just going to say “oh nice article, I’ll have to apply this” then you bookmark it or make a mental note and completely forget about it. Don’t be an information junkie! Read to act!
I want you to use one of these methods for at least a whole day. Commit yourself to putting into action one of any of the methods I showed you within the next day. If you just read to read then I can assure you that’s the path to “failure”.
Do you know of other ways of letting go? If so, comment below! Was this blog post useful? If so.. Well you know what to do ?